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Book Review: Five Laws of Success
Sep 13th
Arnina Nikitina was shocked. “I felt sorry for the time I wasted trying to succeed without knowing the basics,” she recalls. “I was mad because I didn’t discover them before.”
She’s talking about her book Five Laws of Success: “From the beginning of time, there have been laws set in motion that automatically bring their results when we act in relation to them. And success is no exception.”
Law #1: The Law of Desire
“If you want something badly enough you will get it.”
The people who succeed in life are the people who want to. They make the conscious choice to go after their goals no matter what conditions they have to put up with or how many sacrifices they have to make. “If you want something badly enough, then quitting is simply not an option,” Nikitina writes. “You either find a way or make one. You pay the price, whatever it takes.”
You can test and strengthen your desire by getting in touch with all the reasons why you want to achieve your goal. The more benefits you can list and the more often you can review this list (every morning is ideal), the stronger your desire becomes.
Law #2: The Law of Belief
“Anything you believe to be true will be your reality.”
The mind is our greatest asset. And yet many of us constantly put ourselves down with limiting beliefs. “If you don’t believe that you can achieve your goal, you won’t,” Nikitina explains. “In order to achieve anything, you must believe it is possible.” Unless you’re 100% sure, the doubt will prevent your success.
Positive beliefs can be created by practicing visualization exercises every night before bed. Close your eyes and create a clear mental picture of success. See and feel it as though it already exists. Because our subconscious mind doesn’t know the difference between dreams and reality, consistently envisioning success will drive actions to create it in real life.
Law #3: The Law of Positive Attitude
“The way we think is the way we perform.”
We all have problems. But what determines success is how we respond to them. Since we can’t control the obstacles we encounter, we must control our attitude about them. “Positive attitude and optimism work like a magnet for success,” Nikitina points out. “If you maintain [a] positive attitude no matter what the situation is, success will come to you AUTOMATICALLY.”
Maintaining a positive attitude is easy if you:
- Listen to yourself – pay attention to your “thoughts, ideas, beliefs and commentaries” so you can replace negative ones with positive ones.
- Get enough sleep – this will boost your energy and enable you to do what needs to be done without feeling tired, overwhelmed, or depressed.
- Put things in perspective – looked at in the grand scheme of things, most stresses aren’t worth the trouble and most problems aren’t that big.
- Take a break – sometimes it’s best to simply step back and relax so you can come back stronger to carry on.
Law #4: The Law of Persistence
“If you keep trying you will succeed.”
Success is never instant, which means we’re bound to go through a certain number of failures along the way. “They are a part of life,” Nikitina writes. Learning the lessons means we don’t have to keep repeating them while adapting our approach makes us stronger in the process.
Ultimately, failure is just a stepping stone that teaches us what doesn’t work and what we should do instead. “Fail or succeed, it doesn’t matter. Both of them will get you where you want to be.”
Law #5: The Law of Goal Setting
“There is no achievement without goals.”
“Goal setting is the most powerful tool you have to achieve success,” Nikitina explains. Goals keep us focused and motivated. They also turn our dreams into reality because they are specific, in writing, have a deadline, and include a clear step-by-step plan.
Conclusion
What do you think? Which of the five do you struggle with most? And what can you do to change that? Please share your thoughts in the comments below!
Book Review: The 7 Timeless Habits of Happiness by Henrik Edberg
Jul 6th
“Happiness is the meaning and the purpose of life, the whole aim and end of human existence.” – Aristotle
“Life wasn’t all too bad really, but I wasn’t that happy either,” recalls Henrik Edberg, creator of The Positivity Blog and author of The 7 Timeless Habits of Happiness. “I think the problem was that I didn’t understand myself or the world around that well. I didn’t understand what I needed to do to create a happier life for myself.” Well, now he does:
1. Choose Happiness
“Most people are about as happy as they make their minds up to be.” – Abraham Lincoln
Misery and happiness aren’t about external circumstances; they are a conscious choice. “You choose each day what you focus on and how you interpret your reality,” Edberg writes. So instead of seeing the world and yourself “through a lens smudged by negativity”, you consciously choose to look outwards and inwards “through a lens brightened by positivity”. This could involve being grateful for what you have, spending time in an environment of happiness with people who lift you up, and choosing positive information such as personal development reading over negative information like endless news reports.
For more, see The Gift of Gratitude and Thoughts on Happiness
2. Get Your Physical Fundamentals in Shape
“Those who think they have no time for healthy eating will sooner or later have to find time for illness.” – Edward Stanley
“How we manage our body has a huge, huge impact on our thoughts, emotions and everything that happens in our personal world,” Edberg explains. This is why we need to eat healthy, exercise regularly, and get enough sleep.
For more, see No More Stress: Part One and The Secret of Dreams by Yacki Raizizun
3. Create an Action Habit
“Action may not always bring happiness; but there is no happiness without action.” – Benjamin Disraeli
It’s been said that the only place success comes before work is in the dictionary. We need to stop waiting for other people to solve our problems and take action in order to see results. Use a morning ritual, do things even if you don’t feel like it, and take responsibility for the process, not the potential results.
For more, see Get the Edge and The Seven Habits: Part Two
4. Be Here Now
“The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, nor to worry about the future, but to live the present moment wisely and earnestly.” – Buddha
Guess what? The past and future don’t exist. They are simply thoughts arising in the present moment. By focusing on the present, we can improve our social skills (no more thinking of what to say when you should be listening to what’s being said), improve our creativity (no more worrying about what others will think of our work), and release stress. And by focusing on what’s in front of us (through practices like guided meditation and breathing techniques), we also learn to appreciate our world more.
For more, see Focus by Leo Babauta (Part 5 of 5) and Carpe Diem!
5. Help and Make Other People Happy
“If you want happiness for an hour, take a nap. If you want happiness for a day, go fishing. If you want happiness for a year, inherit a fortune. If you want happiness for a lifetime, help someone else.” – Chinese Proverb
“When you do the right thing and make people happy you feel good about yourself,” Edberg points out. “When you make someone else happy you can sense, see, feel and hear it. And that happy feeling flows back to you.” Give value by bringing a positive attitude to your interactions, giving useful advice, or offering a listening ear to someone who needs it. And let’s not forget about smiles and hugs! Even though people may not always appreciate what you do or feel compelled to reciprocate, you should still persist and feel good for doing so.
For more, see People Policy and Relationship Review
6. Do What You Love to Do
“Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful.” – Albert Schweitzer
The fact that you’re working at a full-time job doesn’t mean you can’t (or shouldn’t) pursue your passions on the side. “There is always time,” Edberg explains. Things won’t always be great but the work won’t feel as hard nor will you have to force yourself to perform. Spend some time exploring and asking questions to bring clarity. Most importantly, remember to add value to the world and not simply to yourself. “By using your talents and skills and at the same time helping people and giving them value in some way you can find the opportunities to both do what you love and to earn money to support yourself from it.”
For more, see Seven Keys to Discovering Your Passion by Jonathan Mead and Success Built to Last
7. Let Go
“When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.” – Lao Tzu
So much of our suffering is caused by our clinging. We hold on to who we are and what we believe to the point where we must always be right. We hold on to things that are impermanent and things we think will make us happy even though they never really do. Sometimes we simply need to accept things as they are and then let them go. We need to stop trying to control everything and stop fussing over things that don’t even matter. And while it may be hard at first, it gets easier as time passes. Our happiness depends on it.
For more, see You’re Worth It! and No More Stress: Part Three
Conclusion
Edberg admits that this book won’t solve all your problems or make you happy all the time. But he firmly believes that with some effort and persistence, focusing on one aspect at a time, you can start to see major differences in your life as was the case for him. What do you think? Are there any other habits of happiness you would add? Please share your thoughts in the comments!